Look Like A Lady?
Are we too hard on each other?
I was thinking about this today. I was looking at fliers for upcoming films and noticing the billing and actors and images. I was thinking about how we sometimes accept men for what they are. If they are a bit grey, skinny, geeky, beefy, craggy, pale, pretentious, broody, bronzed, awkward, proud, menacing, small, bald, beardy, sexy, not… whatever… we just look at kind of go ‘Right-o. There you go. That’s you. Okay.’
But I think the ladies are a different kettle of fish.
I think that often, when we look at the ladies, we notice if they are busty, not, voluptuous, ethereal, tiny, tall, blonde, fashionable, indie, tanned, thin, plump, fragile or fierce. We kind of go: ’I like that. I don’t like that. Could do better. What are you wearing?!’ Are you following me so far?
I think we look at the fellas and take them for what they are.
I think we look at the ladies and decide if they are our sort of girl.
I think we look at the fellas and dismiss them (or not!)
But I think we look at the gals and think more deeply about what they mean to us.
I wonder if you think this too? And if you agree, is it because we identify more with the ladies? Or is it because we see bits of ourselves reflected in them, and perhaps that triggers insecurities?
I think this carries over into other situations too. See a woman with a baby and we tend to look at the overall picture and check out how she’s parenting, what she looks like, how happy said kidlet is, what shoes Mama is wearing. See a man with a baby and we tend to go ‘Aww. What a good Dad!’
See a man in his swimsuit. Pass him by. Try NOT to look, even. See a woman in a swimsuit. Give her the once over.
See a man with a trolley at the supermarket. All is right with the world. See a woman with a trolley at the supermarket. What woman?! I didn’t even notice her! Oh yeah. Whatevs. That’s a lot of ice-cream lady.
Why do we judge the ladies and let the men free-range about the place?! Or are you totally lovely and non-judgey in the lady department. Personally I try VERY HARD NOT TO DO THIS! How about you. Do tell. Have you seen the other ladies looking you up and down? Are we more accepting and forgiving of our fellas?
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