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Opinion : Dear Samantha Brick, Pretty Schmitty!

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April 4, 2012
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Petra posted in News On Toast this morning about pretty lady, Samantha Brick. Samantha (a pretty blonde whose head I have accidentally yet ironically chopped off in the above photo) has written quite a long piece about what it’s like to be pretty. She says that men want to buy her things and women want to blank her. She talks about being given free drinks, free cab fares and free tickets by the fellas. And she talks about being judged, dismissed, ignored and yelled at by women.

Gawsh. I think that’s sad.

Samantha feels that she’s faced all kinds of discrimination due to her good looks, being knocked back for promotions,  having doors slammed in her face, being yelled at at dinner parties and never being asked to be bridesmaid, for starters.

Gosh. I think that’s really sad too. I mean, I think it’s pretty easy to have a giggle at Samantha. I think it’s pretty easy to look at the photos of her and decide whether she’s pretty or not.  I think its pretty easy to want to blank her, to be honest.  But here’s the thing. Does it really matter?

I mean, it’s very GOOD to feel great about the way you look. It’s super great to look after yourself.  It’s fantastic to have nice hair and piece together cute outfits. I think ALL THOSE THINGS are good.

But do you really need to define yourself by your pretty? Do you need to let that make you who you are? Do you really WANT to be seen as the pretty one? The one to be jealous of? The one to ignore? Isn’t being pretty only one tiny piece in the puzzle of a person? Can you really be merely ‘The Pretty One’?  Aren’t we all MUCH more than that?

Maybe Samantha has all kinds of other things that she could focus on. Obviously she’s a good writer. She’s got a nice moustache-y hubby and a seemingly nice life too.  She likes going to the gym and not eating chocolate. Good work, Sam. Except the chocolate bit.

Perhaps it’s best for her not to WORRY too much about the pretty, if it’s eating her up like this? I mean, I don’t want to tell her how to live her life, but… I just did.

I have no doubt that some dorks don’t like pretty people (and let’s not worry about whether Sam is pretty or not to you, that’s beside the point), but do you really want to hang out with those kinds of people anyway?

This from Sam’s piece :

Therapist Marisa Peer, author of self-help guide Ultimate Confidence, says that women have always measured themselves against each other by their looks rather than achievements — and it can make the lives of the good-looking very difficult.

I don’t agree, Therapist Marisa Peer. I judge other women. I really do. Sorry.  But rarely on their looks.  I judge them by the things they say, the things they do, how they treat other people, how they write, the things they joke about,  how they talk to children, how they chop onions, which cocktail they like… those kinds of things. The things that matter.  Maybe you are a bit like that too?  We’re not all pretty haters. And a lot of us look beyond the pretty to see the real person, we truly do.

Samantha, to you, I say this (as if you care!)

Pretty is lovely. We need pretty. We do. But you are more than pretty. I bet you are heaps more. Don’t give pretty the time of day if it’s weighing on you so much.  Laugh in the face of the pretty-haters. Say ‘Hah! Hah! Hah!’ to them as you smile (prettily) and walk away.  Go something non-pretty but super awesome.

xx Pip

Aren’t we all MUCH MORE than pretty? Do we REALLY judge everyone by their looks?

  • Bra Queen

    Love you Pip!

    You know I think you’re so “pretty” not for what you look like on the outside,
    except your eyes because eff me they are the most stunning color I have ever
    seen.
    But really, you shine so brightly because you are this amazingly humble, genuine,
    sincere, giving, compassionate, sweet and ever so funny person.

    Pretty is nice but if you’re not pretty on the inside then it makes you
    ugly.  People see what they want to see.

    Rx

  • http://twitter.com/MJLeaver MJ Leaver

    http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2029781/I-use-sex-appeal-ahead-work–does-ANY-woman-sense.html

    That, more than the insufferable article which started off the latest anti-Brick rampaging is one of the main reasons I, and many other women I know dislike Samantha.

    She objectifies herself, proudly, and proclaims all women do it (and should do it, assuming they have the assets to do so). She’s incredibly self-obsessed, and insufferably vain, and reading her words, no matter how well they’re crafted, makes me feel ill.

    • Petra @ JustB

      UGH – that article is positively revolting, MJ. So In one article Samantha says “I’ve always dressed with the express intention to please and gratify my male bosses in the workplace”, and in the next she’s banging on about how female bosses give her the evil eye for what she’s wearing! A silly woman. “Insufferably vain” Is right.

      • http://twitter.com/MJLeaver MJ Leaver

        I know. She admits to undertaking a calculated campaign to flirt obviously and shamelessly with any man who can get her what she wants – with no respect for relationships, or anything else – and wonders why she’s never been asked to be a bridesmaid! I’m fairly certain it has nothing to do with her implied assertion that it’s because she’d outshine the bride; and more likely to do with the fact she’d flirt with the groom if she thought it would get her a nicer cut of steak.

  • Reannonhope

    I read the article MJ posted below & I think that perhaps the actions written about there is why Samantha is not liked by woman but loved by men….she may think she is pretty but her personality seems ugly. That’s me being judgmental without ACTUALLY knowing her….

    Pretty doesn’t matter but I think you only realise that as you get older & wiser. When I was a teen I wanted to be the pretty because 1. I wasn’t & 2. I thought it mattered. I was silly then. I’m not sure why people like me but I know that I like people who make me laugh, who do cool stuff, who are kind, who share interest with me. Pretty doesn’t even come into it!! BUT I do go out of my way to compliment people when they look pretty because I know it makes me feel good if someone says something nice about my clothes, hair or jewellery….Does that mean that pretty really does matter?

    • Bra Queen

       Well said x

  • rachkln

    I love this Pip. Perfectly said.  I don’t mind saying, I try hard to look presentable on a day-to-day basis and there are probably occasions in my life that have been affected by my looks but I would NEVER use it as an excuse or a reason for anything. In fact, this is such a small part of me that I don’t even think about it on a daily basis. I love the women in my life because they are smart, funny and have kind hearts. To be honest, THAT is what I’m insecure about. Not being smart or funny enough. Having said that, perhaps it’s really all about confidence rather than looks anyway.  She may find that it’s not really her attractiveness that’s affecting her life, it’s probably more her over-confidence.  But maybe that’s just me…x

  • Jayde

    its funny, but i find people who think they are ‘pretty’ and complain about woman not liking them, actually quite ugly! its nothing to do with looks…i see peoples beauty from within honestly! Of coarse the first thing we see is a persons face but the second that person opens their mouth their “pretty little head” can turn into a troll. I kind of think the reason woman dont like her has nothing to do with her looks…cos honestly she is very normal looking, nothing spectacular, and maybe i think that now cos i read her article and she started to look less attractive because of who she is, or maybe she is just an average looking person? Its wonderful to think your are attractive and confidence is attractive, but seriously….no one cares if ‘pretty’ is all you are!
     Great story Pip. You are truly one of the beautiful people…and again, its not cos u are attractive, thats lovely that you are adorable and look lovely, but your good heart, and your search for peoples true being is what makes you “pretty”
     Beauty comes from within…’pretty’ doesnt exist if your insides are not beautiful!

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  • http://twitter.com/ruthbruten GourmetGirlfriend

    eeeeeeeek! 
    i don’t know where to start….all i can say is THANK the buddha we have PIP steerin’ the ship.LOVELOVELOVE.tis about the brain & the soul.always.c’mon ladies!!!!!

  • http://twitter.com/TutuAmes Ames

    It HAS to be a joke. Her posing with her husband while he’s holding a gun -http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2124782/The-Im-beautiful-backlash-In-yesterdays-Mail-Samantha-Brick-claimed-women-loathe-attractive-It-provoked-worldwide-internet-storm-Here-says-This-bile-just-proves-Im-right.html. Honestly.