Blog School: Get Off The Bus

I’ve seen that. I know about that already. I know about something else just like that.

Have you ever told someone about something, perhaps on your blog or in conversation, only to be met with one of these phrases? I have. I think that sometimes it is an indicator of someone who is right on the same wave length as you, keen to delve into the same kind of things that you are into. I like those times. Let the conversation begin! Snap!

But sometimes the conversation stops right there. It might end like this…

‘I’ve seen that before’. ‘I know about that already’. ‘That is the same as this’. ‘I posted that last week’ ‘I saw that over there last week’ ‘Goodbye’.

Those are the times that make me wonder. I mean, I think it is so awesome that people are so widely travelled on the internet, I really do. But I do wonder whether it’s kind of like a really fast tour bus. Yes, we can see 20 amazing creative wonders on the internet in 20 minutes. We can. But is seeing really believing? I think there is a bit of a tendancy to stamp our passport and click away. A trend towards seeing it all without knowing much about it.

Wouldn’t it be so great if we could slow down a bit? See less, but engage more? Actually take the time to soak things up, to appreciate the work of others in a more meaningful, human way. Surely if someone is taking the time to sit down and write something, or indeed stand there and chat to you, they really want to engage with YOU. They want you to know the things that are important to them. They want you to understand their motivations, inspirations, likes and loves. Or at the very least, hear them out.

So why, I wonder, do we often deflect their excitement or enthusiasm with a big fat ‘Meh!’ ? Are we really so extremely well versed in everything about most things that we not only click away in search of a fresh stop over, but we sometimes feel the need to leave a parting YAWN?! Just because we have SEEN it, doesn’t mean we know all about it… or indeed that it’s not worth seeing again.

I think it would do us a world of good get off the bus and go for a quiet wander. Retrace our steps sometimes, even. Meet some nice people. Work out who they are and where they are coming from. Drink some wine. Eat some cheese. Have some laughs. And when they tell us stuff about them, maybe we could listen to what they are trying to say? And if we’ve seen it before, maybe we could talk about what made it memorable? Start a bit of friendly dialogue? Keep the conversation rolling?

It totally beats putting on our ‘Been There Done That’ trucker cap and ordering the tourist special.

What do you think? Have you read it?!

xx Pip

This post was originally published on the now defunct creativity blog Make and Meaning : May 20th 2010

  • Georgina Clarke

    Haha that clip is hilarious! I totally agree with what you’re saying. Although I’ve been up for many hours so I’m not sure I have an eloquent comment to add! I try to leave comments when i visit blogs and engage in conversation. Yesterday someone invited debate on a post and I left a question asking her to clarify something. Went back today and I was the only person who commented and she hadn’t replied. Quite discouraging. In that case it was the actual author who didn’t want to engage. Strange!

    • Pip @ JustB

      Oh that’s INTERESTING! I wonder why she didn’t reply… Maybe she missed the bus?! xxx

  • Lynda Rennick

    That video is funny, and I love the beanie!

    It is nice to “get off the bus” and enjoy the little things in life. Engage in a conversation at the newsagents, or just sit and watch people walk by when having a cup of coffee.

    • Pip @ JustB

      Oh YES. I agree. Soak things up and mull things over, I say! :) x

  • jody

    Love that clip! I have to remind myself sometimes to slow down and take everything in, it certainly always means more that way. Great post Pip, thanks! xo

    • Pip @ JustB

      Well THANK YOU!! :) xxx

  • Kirsty Bunfield

    Thanks Pip for including the clip to really bring it home.

  • Debbie Lindsay

    Love this. And it bugs me in a very literal sense as well. I live for travel and love re-tracing my steps to places I’ve been before. A couple of years ago I went to Paris and met up with my boyfriend at the time and his parents (I know romantic). They seemed so bored the whole time because they’d been to Paris before. I don’t know about you, but I could spend every day of the rest of my life in Paris and not get bored with it… I don’t understand this bucket list obsession of seeing something, ticking it off and moving on to the next thing without actually engaging.
    Great post! :)

  • marianne

    I liked your topic regarding the common courtesies in responding to a blog. As I have been devolving more into blogs it seems that common politeness is lacking in the blogs I have read. Rules if entiquette SHOULD PREVAIL. slowing down to ponder and mull is why I like blogs,
    Cute clip. Thanks for you posting. Thought provoking