Family : The Family Table

Written by
March 21, 2012
Be Happy
22 Comments

Did you grow up sitting across the table from your siblings and/or your parents? At my place, in Ye Olden Days, when I was a kid, we always ate together. Sometimes it was at the now-totally-coveted Teak Extendable Dining Table With Matching Chairs (mint condition!) And sometimes we smooshed ourselves into the now-totally-coveted Danish Deluxe Lounge Suite (brown, one owner!) We’d have roasts and fondue and other fiddlier things at the table. And bowls of corn chowder or tuna casserole or take-away were more the loungey kind of meal, huddled around the TV watching The Goodies or Dr Who or some such retro ABC-ness.  We hardly ever ate out, because the food and fun was kinda nicer at home.

My parents cooked from The Australian Women’s Weekly cookbooks, or foodie magazines or Cordon Bleu kinda cookbooks. They were really great and adventurous cooks, and they have passed that on to me. Phew!

If I press the fast forward button and wind things forward to now, our family eating habits are pretty similar.  We eat together every night, mostly at the table.  We usually eat something Asian-inspired like Fish Curry or Potato Curry or Dahl or my AMAZING (true!) Teriyaki Chicken. Sometimes we have Roast Chicken with vegetables (mostly I just eat the vegetables) or homemade pizzas (we have a cool pizza oven!)  Occasionally we have pasta (I like to make gnocchi) or chicken pie.  And we love to have Mexican (made from scratch because the Spanish grocer is just down the road from my house!)

We have takeaway once a fortnight, perhaps. And we eat out maybe once a month because it costs SO MUCH to eat out and we are all usually starving afterwards because the portions are so teensy!

We cook from all kinds of great cookbooks, because we are addicted to cookbooks.  (Here are some of my faves, if you are interested!)

I find it REALLY hard to decide on things to cook at home, because we all like different things. I am not a vegetarian, but I prefer to eat vegetables. The boys are totally in to meat. At every meal. Ugh.  I cook a big pot of soup once a week: maybe this Minestrone, for instance : and I freeze some so that I can have a vegie alternative if the meat fest has gone on too long.  Sometimes I make my own bread too, because I am an annoying overachiever like that. I don’t bake cakes very often though. Weird. I like cakes!

recipe

Our kids chat and read at the table. We don’t mind a bit of a snack and read.  I know that in some houses this is a total no-no, but we are quite feral in the literary department and encourage reading at all times. (Except I don’t like the TOILET reading thing. Ugh!)  We usually have one dumb argument at the dinner table every single night. This is how we know that dinner is over.  Then we cleverly head to the kitchen for a new debate about who is doing the dishes (the dishwasher is broken!)  After that we go into the lounge room and bicker over what to watch on TV. Well. The kids go upstairs to watch TV and my partner and I bicker, actually.

Then we happily drink tea (or sometimes wine) and watch something together whilst also looking at our computers and begging the kids to get in the bath, brush their teeth and other important things.

That’s how it goes in our house. It’s sort of like The Waltons meet The Simpsons. Nice.

What is it like at your Family Table? Or what was it like when you were growing up? Do you sit down together to eat? What kinds of things do you like to eat and cook? Do you go out often? Or do you prefer to eat in? Are restaurants unaffordable for families? And are the serves to small?!  Are you The Waltons? Or are you The Simpsons?!  Do chat with me and tell us what it’s like for you, JustBees!

xx Pip

image credit : Inchmark via Dinner A Love Story

Want more chatter? Come and chat with Nikki tonight via Spreecast. It’s  super simple and it’s going to be amazing! Sign up here.

  • Ballan

    My husband and I usually sit down together sometimes our son joins us other times he takes his dinner off to the TV, as adults I don’t worry anymore but when the kids were all home I liked to sit down and eat together,.As a child I grew up in a guest house that my mum owned so I ate with the guest so I had a dozen big brothers who made sure I ate and even at times fed me which I always thought was fun and quite normal.I was a fussy eater .My granddaughter often eats at unusual times due to her parents irratic lifestyle with work and sport and such she is used to it I don’t particularly like a child sitting down to eat on their own but everybody life style is different and it’s not good to judge.

    • http://www.justbaustralia.com.au/ Pip @ JustB

      Oh interesting! Growing up in a guest house and eating with people you just met?! How amazing and challenging! I think a lot of people eat ‘on the go’ now, Ballan… probably it’s not the best, but it is better than not eating I guess! Thanks for sharing how things are for you (and WERE for you, too!) It’s been so great to read! x

  • http://twitter.com/ruthbruten GourmetGirlfriend

    I wrote ALL about this exact subject very recently.
    I love our dinner table.
    It’s where we all catch up on our day. 
    Our kitchen table is right in the middle of our living room.
    Our whole life is centred around this place really.
    It’s my happy place.
    A place where I catch up with all my favourite people.
    Both my family & my friends.
    My folks were adventurous cooks like yours…and like you I have inherited that too! YIPPEE!!! Aren’t we so lucky!
    I also don’t mind books (or toys) at the table.
    I just like my peeps at the table so I dont mind if they bring things they like along too….
    but I mostly don’t like the TV being on because it totally kills the conversation & the togetherness- although sometimes we have a sneaky couch TV dinner- and sneak in a few more cuddles & laughs.
    We are usually watching the Simpsons….or Modern Family. We all love both shows.
    OMG Pip are we the same person??!! So many similarities….except we NEVER had takeaway when I was a kid. NOT. ONCE.

    Here’s the link to what I wrote about my dinner table: 
    http://gourmetgirl-friend.blogspot.com.au/2012/03/what-really-happens-at-our-dinner-table.html 

    • http://www.justbaustralia.com.au/ Pip @ JustB

      Oh I LOVED reading about your family! AND I am going to click over to read even more! I like the sound of your place A LOT!!!

  • Kathy_ehmann

    when i was a child (1 of 4) we ate out maybe 3 times a year at the local yacht squadron (an aspirational choice of my father’s. groan.)  dad never cooked and my mother was and still is a bad cook.  she can make rice collapse into mush.  and on special occasions during the 70s and early 80s, she’d make apricot chicken which was just horrible.

    my 3 babes are bw 5 and 11 and we eat together every night.  sometimes we venture away from the table to the couch for a super special movie night, but you can imagine the mess that becomes with a 5yo. sometimes my eldest son does not eat with us because i haven’t been organised enough to get it on the table and then get him off to scouts, but  i don’t think i could ever be happy with someone grabbing their meal and taking it to another room.  If someone has cooked for them, they can make eating it their focus for ten minutes.  anything else is just rude.  books at the table are pretty well encouraged.  computer games confiscated and thrown outside.the kids are just getting interested in cooking now.  yesterday morning, the 6yo cooked porridge for us all and tonight, one of them will make a pudding.  we don’t eat out much because buying for 5 is expensive and mostly i’d rather have pasta with oil and salt than spend $100.

    after dinner, kids to bed and the bloke and i will watch something on the apple tv with wine/beer/tea and a handful of nuts.

    • http://www.justbaustralia.com.au/ Pip @ JustB

      Oh YES! No gaming at the table! I agree! 
      Your poor Mum and her mushy rice! And poor YOU GUYS too! Did you all grow up very thin?!
      I agree, re spending $100. It really grates on me. MUCH rather have nice cheese on toast at home, in fact, than spend $100 plus on a meal out! 
      Thanks for telling your story. It is a really lovely and interesting one! 

  • Julie

    Our family always sat down to eat together, every single night and at lunch if people were at home at that time. If any of our children come over we still eat together at the table, with place mats and coasters and glasses of water and wine and decent cutlery, because we love to eat like that. Eating together as a family is one of life’s wonderful experiences!
    We love home made fresh food and, like you I am a bit of an over achiever, because I made bread for our family for 20 years, sometimes 2 loaves a day ( when the girls were growing!!). We avoid eating too much meat these days too and I have owned the Moosewood Cookbook and The Enchanted Broccoli Forest since the 80′s and vegetarian meals have been a feature of our weekly menu since then. If you don’t know about those two books you can’t be a real hippy :-) Nice post :-)

    • http://www.justbaustralia.com.au/ Pip @ JustB

      I have those books too, Julie! If you pop back to this post, I hope you might tell me your favourite recipes from those books! I would LOVE to know!  

      Your dinner table sounds lovely to me. You have inspired me to set the table with a bit more effort. Thank you!!

    • reannonhope

      I did not know about those books so I looked them up & I think they will soon be arriving on my bookshelf :)

      I love a good cookbook recomendation!

  • reannonhope

    As kids we ALWAYS ate at the table. We had six kids so there was never enough room for all of us to eat in the lounge room & mum would have had a mental breakdown trying to keep it all clean. We had one of those tables that extended in the middle so we could all fit!!! My mum was , & still is, a great cook but I don’t think I truly appreciated how good until I became an adult….Take away meant fish & chips & we only had that very occasionally because buying take away for 6 kids would have sent my parents bankrupt!!!!

    Now with my own family we are very relaxed about meal times. Mostly we sit at the table but sometimes my youngest eats at the bench while we eat at the table. I’m not sure why but I’m not too bothered by it as it is right next to the table. Some nights we eat in the lounge room but it’s a treat like if we have a movie we all want to watch. We all read at the table & the TV news is on most of the time. I wish we didn’t have it on but it’s become a habit. Sometimes it helps open conversations other times I’m sure it kills it.

    I cook most nights & until recently take away was always a Friday night thing. It’s usually absolute junk but lately we have been moving away from that. Now if we want to have an easy night of food it’ll be toasted sandwiches or quesadilla & I think we all like that much better. 

    We don’t eat out much, mainly because it’s just not us, we are homebodies & I would rather spend the day trawling cookbooks, shopping for ingredients & cooking. I do like to go out for special occasions though, especially if it is mexican!

    • reannonhope

      P.S your mexican chicken sounds delish & now I MUST find those chills so I can make it this weekend!

      • http://www.justbaustralia.com.au/ Pip @ JustB

        I can send you some! Yes!

        • reannonhope

          Really!!! I would love that :)

  • Peta

    We eat in the lounge in front of the tv (Guilty). Someone has to sit on the floor, the way the chairs are set around the room not all face the tv, this seems to always be an allocated position for the youngest member of our family. I have ambitions of sitting at the table with everyone using their manners and saying ‘Please pass the potatoes’, then I make tea and look longingly at the table and we head for the lounge! We chat in our compfy seats and critique the shows.
    There’s always conversation flowing so I don’t feel like we miss out on the table conversation.
    We do miss out on the manners though:(

  • Cate Lawrence

    As a child meal times were quite stressful. My father was a stickler for table manners (he was very strict in general) and a knife or fork held wrong warranted a slap or a stab in the hand with a fork. My mum would try to feed us before hand as much as possible to avoid shared meals…

    Luckily my mum remarried someone lovely when I was a young teenager and meal times became much more relaxed. My mum went to Chinese cooking classes and used to try out her recipes on us. Not sure how authentic they all were, I have memories of chow mein which including mince and chicken noodle soup packet mix.

    My husband and I don’t share meals all that much in the evening as we are often busy working running workshops or at work events.  But we like to have lunch together at home when we can on the couch or in the sun in the backyard. Nice. When we can we love to have people round for dinner, our place is quite small so it’s sometimes plates on laps and lots of wine and board games and I make something like curry or macaroni and cheese and veggie chilli. Fun.

  • http://twitter.com/JackieCupcake Jackie Brown

    When I was a kid we ALWAYS sat down at the table for dinner (always at 7pm! My parents are creatures of habit).  The TV would be on in the other room on the ABC news and my sister and I would be encouraged to talk to Mum and Dad about current events, even when we were still quite small.  My Dad is quite fond of explaining concepts using salt and pepper shakers and glasses to this day!

    We hardly ever went out for dinner, but if we did it would be to the local Chinese, or as I got older and more different restaurants appeared in Canberra, Indian.  Usually the owners were clients of my Dad – he seems to know everyone.

    These days my partner and I (no kids) aim to eat at the table, but this has often depended on how the house we’re living in at the time is set up.  Our last flat had a huge open kitchen/dining/lounge so we often ate at the table, but our current place is a lot smaller so it’s less comfortable and we usually eat on the couch.  We do try to  not have the telly on unless there’s something we especially want to watch though.  I’d like to think that when we have kids we’ll be purely a “dinner table family” cause I think it’s super important!

    • Cate Lawrence

       I think space is a huge issue, our kitchen is so small I can open the cupboards, fridge and oven whilst sitting at the table!

  • Jo

    We try to sit down and have dinner as a family each Wednesday. Not always easy as their Dad and I haven’t been together for 15 years and we don’t always get along! But most weeks he’s here for dinner and its a good time. A time for him to hear what’s been happening, and for the kids to see we are both super interested in their lives. I don’t think it hurts them to see that it can be hard but Mum and Dad do it for them. And now they rarely go to his and he has this whole new life, it keeps him in the loop. But there MUST be wine!!!!

    • Jo

      oh and besides rituals are important. They’ll remember this more than a curry in front of Doctor Who!  (ok maybe not more than – thats fine too)

      • http://twitter.com/ruthbruten GourmetGirlfriend

        I am super impressed that despite being separated that you all meet one a week to be together. That is a super heartwarming thing to read. ANd yep I reckon you are totally right that it isn’t a hard thing for the kids to see how hard it is either….
        You are ACE JO- super ACE!!!

        • http://twitter.com/ruthbruten GourmetGirlfriend

          *once

  • Pingback: Ten Cute Ways To Set Your Table | justb. |