Life : Five Things I Wish I’d Known At Fifteen : By A Beach Cottage
Hindsight, is indeed, a beautiful thing, isn’t it?! Here are five things I wish I’d known at fifteen.
1. Make Your Own Luck
When I was 15, I was under the impression that some people were ‘lucky’ and I truly believed that I was not one of them. I constantly heard statements like “It’s alright for them, they’re lucky” or something along the lines of Just my luck”, when things went wrong.
Fast forward a few years to the grown up me, when I found myself a young mum to a beautiful baby boy. The people around me told me that I was ‘lucky’ to have a baby like him. They said I was lucky that he slept through the night. Lucky that he fed well. Lucky that he had a routine that worked. Lucky that I could get dressed and showered in the morning. Lucky? I don’t think so.
When I had another baby, apparently I was ‘lucky’ with her too. Lucky that another one sleeps through the night. Lucky that she likes vegetables. By baby number three I was convinced there was no luck involved, there was one person behind the scenes creating this luck. It was me. Everyone else was still saying I was one lucky little duck, however.
My three lucky babies showed me that actually, you make your own luck, and if I had known that at 15 my earlier days might just have been a bit sweeter.
2. Nurture Friendships
At 15, I wish I had been a better friend. If only I had known then how important friendships are, I would have taken them into my heart, nourished them and have them travel through life with me. Instead, apart from one, I have never been a very good friend and years later, on the other side of the world, starting a new life, I see how important friendships are. When you have none you all of a sudden know. If at 15 I had known what I know these days things might be a bit different for me now.
3. Love Me
When I was 15 I wish I’d known to just love being me. If only I had known how fortunate I was to be young, fit and healthy. I wish I’d know to love every bit of me. Now, I love me for all that I am and I don’t care who the hell knows it, I don’t care if I get criticism for it. I rejoice in being a forty year old woman who is happy, healthy and loved by a handful of people and I take care to nurture that side of me all the way to the bank. I take selfies and post them on Instagram, call me on that? Hear me roar! I get my nails done and smile. I feed my brain and walk with a spring in my step. IF ONLY I had known to love me at 15.
4. Be Nice & Shut Up
When I was 15 I wish I had known about the power of being nice and had shut up about the rest of it. These days I am still working on being nicer. It’s tricky, old habits die hard. But every now and then I meet someone who is just nice to me, kind and sweet and nice. Boy does it feel good. Oh, how I wish I had felt that at 15.
5. Work Your Socks Off
When I was 15 I wish I had worked much harder. I really wish I had worked my socks off to change where I was coming from and where I was going to. I left school with very good results, without too much effort, but if only I had worked harder
Once I became a mum though it didn’t take me long to work it out. Things changed. I worked hard. Like, all the time. I worked my socks off to have good kiddos and I wanted them to have the things I didn’t have. Not material things, not toys or computer games. No. I worked hard to make a happy home, with a happy mum. I wanted them to have boundaries, to be well-behaved, to be good friends and good people and I worked my little socks off to guide them in all of that.
I worked hard on my brain, too. I pushed myself to read books to make me improve, I studied online to learn. learn, learn! I took courses in anything that interested me. I just worked really hard at being a better me. If only I had known to do that at 15.
What about you? What do you just wish wish wish you knew at fifteen?
Sarah blogs at A Beach Cottage. Born in London and raised in a very small house in Kent, England, Sarah, her husband, three children and goldfish now call Sydney, Australia home. An advocate for winging it and not worrying about perfection, she shares her projects, decorating ideas and ways to achieve a comfortable and casual home without spending a fortune. Visit Sarah here for a peek into her life.